Since having Bankston Hays, there are a few things we have learned about having a third child. One of which is that, in most cases, he
has to learn by observation. Some of that is due to less time for one on one attention. But, most of it is just because he has so many people to watch.
With Wes, he pretty much watched me all day. So, whatever we played, he mastered. He got very good at puzzles, stacking blocks, paying attention to stories, etc. With Ann Elise, she had me -
but she also had Wes. So, she learned from playing with me some...but she learned alot from playing with Wes. She got very good at digging in the dirt, pretending to be a pirate looking for treasure, riding the Powerwheels motorcycle, following her big brother's instructions, etc. With Bankston Hays, he had me, he had Wes -
and he had Ann Elise. (Of course, Kris fit in this picture just as much - you'll see!! I am just referring to the "days".)
So, for the first part of his life he learned to watch us. We were busy doing
all of it so he just observed. As he became more independent he imitated what he had seen us do most!
- He wanted to unload the dishwasher and transfer wet clothes to the dryer.
- He wanted to brush his own teeth and dress himself.
- He didn't want the tee ball (soft), he wanted the baseball (hard).
- He wanted markers. and paper. and scissors. and glue.
- He wanted to carry his own backpack full of whatever for the imaginary monster hunt and his own flashlight.
- He wanted to pour his own honey mustard.
Get the picture? "After all, this is how life works, right? The three of them do things this way...why shouldn't I?"
Soon after we built this house, we were visiting my grandmother and noticed she had several new oak tree shoots in her yard. She told us to take them and see if we could transplant them into our new yard. One of those trees has survived beautifully and is fast approaching providing us shade! As it grew, it had become top heavy and was growing at an angle. This Spring, Kris tied the top of the tree and anchored it, pulling it straight. One morning, I discovered Bankston Hays in the yard, with his tool box. He had observed Kris...



Another afternoon he pulled out his lawnmower and got to work. After all, that is what Daddy was doing!


"Don't worry that children never listen to you;
worry that they are always watching you."
~Robert Fulghum